Hello All:

Hope that you are enjoying this blog.....I am always looking for new ideas to write about. I am going to begin writing articles. What would you like to read more about? Thank you for your continued support and words of encouragement. Part of my mission is for personal expression and also wanting to grow personally and professionally as I encourage others to do the same.

Sincerely,

- Meg

Don't forget where you come from....

Looking back with love is an important way of looking at things if you are me. since not all of the things that have happened in my life were especially pleasant at the time. In fact, much of my life has been rather painful and that has enabled me to develop more insight along the way. I notice that I have choices as to how I want to view things, people or events that have ocurred or are happening in my life.

Truth be told.........

Truth be told, I am learning so much in life about myself and others .

Meg O' Hanlon

Hello Everyone:

It's been awhile since I put my thoughts out there again. I think its healthy to allow yourself to express yourself without fear of being rejected, accepted or criticized. You see that's all part of the creative process to me. Even as a child I intuitively knew that as more of a feeling than a set in stone way of doing then way some people are. Why can't those black and white thinking people allow the other people be who they are instead of trying to mold them into their narrow way of seeing things. I grew up going through the Catholic school system and basically freedom of expression was pretty much a no-no back then in the particular school that I went to where the nuns had the upper hand and I don't mean maybe. We had art class practically at gun point. We didn't have much opportunity to draw outside the lines so to speak. Lots of other people have had different experiences and its important for me to remember not to get caught up in right and wrong, black and white thinking cuz then it is sure to wring the life of any and all future creativity that God may be sending your way. So try not to react to others internally or externally when they think they are trying to help you by imposing their limited views onto your expression instead of allowing their own to come forward; because you know what? It's scary to let go. Me, I think of art as more of an exercise in letting go rather than a fixed idea of the way it "should" be done, feel or look when its done. And actually I discovered this when I allow myself to be present in the process of feeling while doing. To me this is learning at its best. Emotions want and need to be felt, acknowledged and expressed as best said by my friend, George who is also a personal coach.

Abuse is not pretty....

The title of this post says it all. Having survived domestic abuse myself I know all too well exactly what it looks like and feels like to become trapped inside and to know a living hell; the terror that the perpetrator deliberately imposes upon the ones they "love"

The scars that it imposes on ones' psyche from the repeated episodes of a spineless ex who had no backbone so in order to prove their manliness to themselves and others they always want to overpower their "woman" using force be it: phsyical, emotional or financial along with all of the lies upon lies to build their own story which is only a one way street to create a greater persona for themselves because now if people only know what really went on in the house when the doors close or in the car when you are at the mercy of the abuser it would display an entirely different picture of what the true story really is about the "abuser" and only when necessary which is pretty much all of the time even when they appear to being nice which is just a major cover up for the next vicious attack or major put-downs to try and build up their nebulous ego which by the way never really did exist.

Their display of bravado is just another illusion in that pea brain head that only gets in the way of ever reaching reality. Yes, women who have gone through this or are currently experiencing it know exactly what I am referring to; waiting for the other shoe to drop and hoping and praying that somehow it will end. The pain that never heals. It is a sad situation. And one that I am blessed and lucky to be rid. I thank God every day. And pray for the others that may be in the situation @ present. It is no easy thing to get out of.

And it is important to re-develop a personal identity separate from what happens with abusive situations and recognize the power to go forward is still within reach when you can find that place where nobody can ever touch or alter; that sacred self which is untouchable and an extension of Gods' everlasting beauty and love. The irony of abuse is that often times the abuser extracts energy from their behaviors as they pursue to disempower and destroy their victim. It is a powerful and destructive dynamics that are difficult to understand from the outside looking in. I never thought it would happen to me.

If you are being abused please reach out for help. You can be happy again.
God bless you.